More Etiquette
  • ETIQUETTE
    All of us want to be successful as swingers. It doesn't matter how often, with whom, where, or in what style we swing. One of the nicest things about our lifestyle is that most of us relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy; just as we ourselves wish to be treated. If you employ the following suggestions or adapt them to your own situation, you should become a welcome participant
     
    CLEANLINESS
    Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or unclean breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination.
     
    RESPECT OTHERS' FEELINGS
    Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping him or her over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.
     
    DON'T BE PUSHY
    If you are interested in swinging with someone, let him or her know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.
     
    HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO
    One of the basic etiquettes in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain. 
     
    What if I find myself in an uncomfortable situation?
    If a couple or a situation make you feel ill-at-ease, perhaps it's the time to invoke the rule of "NO Thank You" You should never feel pressured into doing anything you are not comfortable doing. You're here to have fun. Being forced is NO FUN. So if anyone persists, talk to the host couple.
     
    PRACTICE SAFER SEX
    It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, aids, yeast infection, etc., the use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are not being accused of being unclean, but simply someone wishes to provide you both with protection.
     
    ENJOY YOURSELF
    Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.
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